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Always second guessing yourself

Non-stop panic

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Internally screaming

Externally faking it

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You can never breathe


You know that feeling when you slip on the stairs and almost fall, or when you lean back in your chair and it tips too far? That is the constant feeling of anxiety, except anxiety lasts a much longer period of time. Anxiety is a constant worrying and nervousness of things that are out of your control. This can include being in social situations where you are afraid of being judged or don’t know anyone. If you are in a room, left to your thoughts, with nothing to do and no one to talk to. You could be running five minutes behind and fear that you will lose your job or miss something important. If you are too early for an important interview or family event and you fret about looking too desperate to go to this event or that you don’t have a life.

Anxiety is often times found in teens and young adults who have been in stressful situations causing massive amounts of panic. If you have ever had an anxiety attack you know that it is not pleasant. You tend to have a shortness of breath, a clouded headspace, and a speeded heart-rate. That is just the mild side of an attack. The far worse side is a complete shutdown from friends, family, and your significant other.

All those people that you shut out think that they know how to fix it, have no idea. They can’t bring you completely out. When they try to help they tend to make it worse. For some people, if you try and do a comforting rub on the back that just causes a bigger melt down. If the touch truly shows comfort and the person is ok with the feeling then you might be able to help. Other ways to help would be to have something comforting to hold such as a favorite stuffed animal or even a real animal, if possible remove them from the area of anxiousness, show that it is temporary and distract them from what is causing panic, lastly, encouraging them to breathe through exercises. More often than not the anxiety is worsened by a lack of air.

Some basic thing that you should never do when helping someone out of an anxiety attack is belittle them by saying that “It’s not that bad.” or someone else “has it worse”. Do not surround them. That oftentimes causes an even more stressful scenario. Try not to remind them of the stress. It can be hard when you don’t know the full extent of the situation but it can be avoided if you stay positive. Don’t ask questions about the situation. That causes the person to think about what happened and often makes the attack worse. If possible, try to eliminate the amount of stress. If someone nearby is yelling or getting frustrated ask them politely to calm down. If they refuse to calm down try to have them leave the room.